Love isn’t Easy if Your Childhood was Traumatic & Hard

Childhood trauma sets you up for confusion, insecurity, hopelessness, and various defenses against being hurt again. Like going cold or choosing the wrong priorities when you’re looking for love. Maybe your parents fought, hated each other, and got a divorce. Maybe you were mistreated as a child and didn’t feel loved. No one cared, which made you feel inferior, and keeps you lonely.

 Who would want to repeat that if you can choose? You’re scared. You might want, and even hope for, the love you didn’t have, but love isn’t easy when your childhood was hard and you don’t want it to happen again. So, you might have your “boxes.” They have to be checked off, or you won’t open up. But boxes aren’t about love. They’re about “safety” when you don’t believe in love.

 But what’s important is not those “boxes.” They don’t make a relationship. Or a good marriage. It’s that mysterious element of love. So, you have to get your past and fears of love out of the way. If you try to calculate a relationship and come up with “boxes,” you might think you’re playing it safe. You might even think success and money are necessities. Yet, those don’t work or make for happiness without love. If you’re too scared and can’t let down your guard, it’s time for help.

 Would you like to read more about love after trauma? Click here for my post on MATERIALISTS.